FUNERAL PLANNING ADVICE

Funeral Planning Advice

Nothing adequately prepares us for the shock of a loved one’s death. We find ourselves in a position that is emotionally confusing, experiencing feelings of panic and helplessness. Yet hundreds of decisions must be made in preparing to say goodbye. Therefore, this section is dedicated to making this difficult time a little easier by providing a checklist to help guide you through this burdensome process. It will also inform you about what your local funeral director can do to help.

  • Funeral Checklist

    When planning a funeral, try not to do everything yourself. Call on a family member or friend to help you make the following arrangements. 


    The first individual to contact after a loved one's death depends on where the death occurred.  In a hospital, nursing home, hospice or similar facility, the staff there will advise you.  For death in a home, you may contact local law enforcement or the coroner (in the counties around metro-Atlanta, the coroner function is performed by the medical examiner's office).  If death is not certain, call emergency personnel (911, ambulance). Coroners or medical examiners will be involved in any death resulting from an accident, a homicide, a death in a public location, an in-home death that was unattended by medical personnel, or any death in a hospital that occurs within 24 hours of admission.  Law enforcement may also be involved, depending on the circumstances of death.


    Though many family members may be involved in a funeral service, Georgia law provides an exact ranked order of "next of kin" for having ultimate authority over a loved one's final disposition.  Please let your funeral director know who is the next of kin of your deceased loved one.  Also, let your funeral director know about any existing funeral service contracts or wishes of the deceased. Please note that the right of final disposition has nothing to do with who pays for a funeral.  You may view the Next of Kin Law for final disposition under this For Consumers section.  A person must be 18 years of age AND of sound mind in order to have the right of final disposition.  Minor children of a deceased adult parent, for example, do not have the right of disposition because they are under 18 years of age.  In that example, the right of disposition would then pass to the next person in the list under Georgia law. 


    Notify:


    • Doctor
    • Coroner
    • Funeral home
    • Your funeral director will help coordinate arrangements with the cemetery or memorial park; if there are pre-existing funeral plans or contracts in place, please let the funeral director know immediately. 
    • Your funeral director will prepare the Social Security Form and see that the number is retired
    • Your funeral director will generally work with you for Veterans Benefits.  He or she can also assist you with preneed or life insurance policies that will be used to cover funeral expenses.
    • The funeral director will assist in determining the number of death certificates you will need and will order them
    • Clergy
    • Relatives and friends
    • Pallbearers
    • Insurance Agents
    • Banks
    • Unions and Fraternal Organizations
    • Organists

    Select:


    • Type of final disposition--burial or cremation.  Other decisions will include:
    • Cemetery property
    • Funeral service
    • Casket
    • Vault or outer container
    • Clothing
    • Flowers
    • Music
    • Thank you announcements
    • Transportation
    • Time and place for the funeral
    • Time and place for visitation

    Provide:


    • Vital statistics about the deceased 
    • Birth Date
    • Birthplace
    • Father’s name
    • Mother’s name
    • Social Security Number
    • Veteran’s Discharge or Claim Number
    • Education
    • Marital status
    • Obituary information (the funeral home will normally help you write the article and submit to the newspaper) 
    • Age
    • Place of birth
    • Cause of death
    • Occupation
    • College Degrees
    • Memberships held
    • Military service
    • Outstanding work
    • List of survivors in immediate family
    • Give time and place of services
    • Charities for memorial contributions
    • Addresses of all people who must be notified
    • Arrangements for out-of-town visitors

    • In addition, you will want to:

    Find someone to help answer sympathetic phone calls, cards and letters, as well as greet friends and relatives when they call.

    Decide an appropriate memorial to which gifts may be made (church, hospice, etc.).

    Prepare a list of distant persons to be notified by letter/or printed notice and decide which to send.

    Locate the will and notify the lawyer and executor.

    Check carefully all life and casualty insurance and death benefits including social security, credit union, fraternal and military.

    Check promptly on all debts and installment payments, including credit cards. Some carry insurance clauses that cancel balances upon death.

    Notify utilities and landlord and tell post office where to send mail (if the deceased was living alone).

The Value of a Licensed Funeral Director 

The funeral director's most important role is to help you. Making any kind of funeral arrangement involves many choices and decisions. Funeral service professionals give you and your family the information you need to make the right choices. Because they understand your need to consider all available options, your funeral director will fully explain these and take time to answer your questions.

Licensed and trained funeral directors help with both the practical arrangements and the emotional issues involved in planning a funeral. On the practical side, they typically remove the deceased from the place of death, obtain the required legal documents and prepare the body for viewing, if desired. Once you and your family are satisfied with your decision regarding services, burial or cremation, your funeral director will arrange for the final disposition, provide facilities for the visitation and funeral service, and transport the deceased and mourners to the place of final disposition.

Your funeral director will take great pains to plan a fitting tribute to your loved one. In fact, he or she will insist on taking an active role in helping you plan a personal and meaningful ceremony to begin the healing process. After the service, your funeral service professional can also provide support materials to help you deal with your grief.

Burials

Just as there are complexities in life, so are there many dimensions in planning the modern funeral. But by making the fundamental choice between burial and cremation, you have already taken care of one of the most important decisions you will need to make. In this section, you will find essential information that will help you make the final burial arrangements, such as:



What type of service will you have? What type of casket will you choose? How will you memorialize your loved one? How can you personalize the funeral? And where will the final resting place be?

  • Planning the Service

    A funeral is one of the most intimate occasions a family can share.  Funeral services help survivors face the death of a loved one, celebrate their life, and often are designed as a send-off for the loved one. Whether elaborate or simple, they are often individualized to reflect the life of the deceased and to hold special meaning for family and other survivors. 


    Personalizing the Funeral Service 


    Personalization is a valuable element of today's funerals. By reflecting on your loved one's lifestyle, religion, profession, organizational affiliation, or hobbies, there are many ways you can make the funeral ceremony a more unique experience. A ceremony can be individualized with musical selections, readings and displays to reflect the person's life, occupation and interests. It may reflect one's religious beliefs as a reaffirmation of faith in a greater life beyond this world. It may center on an ethnic background or social affiliation, or even reflect the occupation or hobbies of the deceased. Inviting friends and family to stand and make a few informal comments about the deceased can be very helpful to survivors. Family members are encouraged to express any ideas that will create a more meaningful and personalized service.  Your family can also include parting thoughts and messages, making the casket more of a personal memorial. Because personal data is enclosed.


    For the service or visitation, some families arrange a memorial table with personal items such as photographs, awards and personal effects that reflect the personality, accomplishments and interests of the person's life, allowing others to share positive and happy memories.


    As a way to honor the deceased, many families customize the casket by adding personalized panels, custom corners and items in an interior drawer. Families can also individualize the ceremony by adding music, readings, stories, and poetry that reflect and celebrate the life that was lived.


    Viewing the Body


    Generally, funeral services are conducted with the body of the deceased present. Many find the viewing to be helpful -- providing a positive and peaceful image of the person to add to their memories. It also allows family and friends to gather and provide comfort to one another. Visitations can be public - open to all who wish to attend, or private - open only to family members and close friends at the immediate family's request. Regardless of the option chosen, this tradition gives family members and friends the opportunity to say their final goodbyes prior to the disposition of the body.


    The Ceremony


    Funeral ceremonies reflect the life of the deceased and hold special meaning for family and other survivors. The service can be religious or secular in nature, where family and friends are encouraged to participate by sharing their memories and feelings. Funeral services (or memorial services at which the body is not present) can be held in a variety of places, such as a funeral home, place of worship, cemetery chapel or graveside.


    Memorial Service


    A memorial service can be religious or secular, with or without the body present. Though they're often held in a funeral home, memorial services can also take place in a cemetery, at the grave site, in a person's home, or in a park or garden. More than one memorial service may be held, particularly if friends and relatives located in different parts of the country are unable to travel to one location.

  • Caskets

    The selection of the casket is a very personal decision and an expression of your feelings. You may select the warmth and beauty of wood or the beauty and protection afforded by a metal casket. You may prefer the simplicity of a tailored interior or a more elaborate design. A casket that reflects the personality and tastes of your loved one can be a final tribute to their life.


    A wide variety of caskets in many price ranges and styles are available both in metal and hardwood.


    Metal caskets are known for their protective qualities and their unique finishes. Bronze and copper are among the most durable and beautiful of the metals. Both are non-rusting and come in several styles and finishes. Stainless and carbon steel caskets also come in a variety of grades, gauges, styles and finishes. Stainless steel is available in premium and basic grades and carbon steel is manufactured in thicknesses of 16 gauge (the thickest), 18 gauge and 20 gauge (the thinnest).

    Hardwood caskets reflect the choice of families who appreciate and cherish the qualities of natural wood. The warmth, beauty and personality it brings to fine furniture makes it ideally suited for the construction of quality caskets. Hardwood caskets are available in a variety of species including Mahogany, Walnut, Cherry, Maple, Oak, Pecan, Poplar, and Pine.

    Casket interiors are available in three types of fabrics: crepe, velour, and velvet.


    • Crepes are usually the least expensive and velvets are the most expensive.
    • Casket interiors are also available in different styles: shirred - in which the material is gathered and sewn, giving it a ruffled appearance; tailored - in which the design is smooth, flat and simple; and tufted - in which heavy padding is used beneath the fabric and the fabric is then pulled through, creating a geometric design. Beige interiors are the standard for most manufactured caskets; however, other colors like the popular pink or blue are also available.
    • Personalized panels help honor a loved one in a unique way, many families add personalized panels to the interior lid of the casket. These panels are available in a variety of motifs portraying various lifestyles, interests and service affiliations. Another way to individualize a casket is by adding custom corners.
    • Customizing a casket with corner styles adds special meaning, whether it's with the praying hand, the promise of hope or a token of love